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By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Many gay relationships, especially those of gay males have threesomes every once in awhile. While itContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Be A Great 3 In A Couple’s 3some””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Have you ever ventured to a sex party or backroom, saw a crowd, witnessing pushing andContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Sexual Vicarious Living, Or Get Inspired””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. I have made no secret of my love for cum. That love has made many appearancesContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Cum Dump: Fantasy vs. Reality””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Attending sex parties and backrooms as much as I have over the years, I have definitelyContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “What Not To Wear – LeNair’s Sex Party Edition””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. I recall at one of my (4 too many) meetings with Lucas Entertainment, Michael Lucas askedContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Anal Sex: No Jizz Required””

 By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. If you’ve been reading my blogs (or any social media postings of mine) long enough, thenContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Need A Sex Space That Dark?…You Don’t Have The Heart””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. The main reason anyone partakes of casual sex is out of horniness. Whether it’s your bodyContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “5 To Thrive with Casual Sex””

By LeNair Xavier A monthly column by Thotyssey’s favorite ex-pornstar and current sexpert. Ownership of our gay male bodies. For some reason, it seems to be becoming treated like it is a crime to do so. Such as this instance: At a party having a clothing-optional policy, I will often take advantage of that policy.Continue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Even Naked, I Have A Right To NO””

By LeNair Xavier A monthly column by Thotyssey’s favorite ex-pornstar and current sexpert. 8 YEARS. On September 23, 2009, 8 years ago, I announced that I was officially retiring from the gay porn industry via a post on the blog that what was then titled “Tré’s X-Ray Vision”, but now called “L’s X-Ray Vision”. MyContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “8 Years Since Porn & A Better Beyond””

By LeNair Xavier A monthly column by Thotyssey’s favorite ex-pornstar and current sexpert. From the beginning on my public sexual persona, first in porn as “Tré Xavier”, and now as LeNair Xavier, one part of my mission in sexual enlightenment has always been to empower bottoms when it comes to addressing anal sex. This isContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Bottom-Shaming & Shame On All Parties””

By LeNair Xavier A monthly column by Thotyssey’s favorite ex-pornstar and current sexpert. I have made it no secret that on June 21st, I won the title of Mr. Handsome NYC during the contest which was held at the club, Paddles during the sex party, Handsome NYC. What many don’t know is that I pretty muchContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “NYC Exhibitionism Fading, Mr. Handsome NYC Resurrecting””

By LeNair Xavier A monthly column by Thotyssey’s favorite ex-pornstar and current sexpert. In case you didn’t know, in the sex toy industry, May is known as Masturbation May. While I, and I’m sure just about every male (regardless of orientation) don’t need a specified month to celebrate masturbation, let’s give it a go-around todayContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “6 Sex Toys That Can Please Men, But Marketed To Women””

By LeNair Xavier A monthly column by Thotyssey’s favorite ex-pornstar and current sexpert. I once saw someone at a bar, and couldn’t help but be interested. I concluded they were male, but their outfit left me wondering if they were masculine or effeminate. Whatever the case, I still found myself drawn to them. This personContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “The Transgender Surprise””

By LeNair Xavier A monthly column by Thotyssey’s favorite ex-pornstar and current sexpert. Which members of the gay community would those with elitist attitudes consider to be “undesirables” among us? Blacks. Asians. Middle Easterners, as well as older and heavier males of any color/ethnicity, including whites. The reason this is the case is because thisContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: ”Fetch My Drugs, Fetch My F**k””

By LeNair Xavier A monthly column by Thotyssey’s favorite ex-pornstar and current sexpert. We live in an age where too many are quick to abbreviate. Never fully understanding the ramifications of those abbreviations. Case in point, in 2017, gay males are still referring to whether one is HIV- as being “clean”. They go on allContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Still Saying ‘Clean’ in 2017?””

By LeNair Xavier A monthly column by Thotyssey’s favorite ex-pornstar and current sexpert. “A femme in the streets, a butch in the sheets.” I first heard this statement in reference to drag queens, and how they’re said to usually be tops. While being a top should be of no significance to judging a male’s manhood, beContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Sex & A Drag Queen’s Manhood””