Sunday (5.28.2023)

SUNDAY (5.28.2023) Your daily guide to New York and New Jersey nightlife programming.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA

MEATPACKING

[PLAYTHINGZ @ Playhouse Sundays 3-7pm]

WEST VILLAGE

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

EAST VILLAGE / LES

TRIBECA / CHINATOWN / LOWER MANHATTAN

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

STATEN ISLAND

LONG ISLAND

FIRE ISLAND

WESTCHESTER

NEW JERSEY

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Saturday (5.27.2023)

SATURDAY (5.27.2023) Your daily guide to New York queer nightlife.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN / TIMES SQUARE

MIDTOWN EAST / FLATIRON

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

MEATPACKING

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE / SOHO

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

LONG ISLAND

FIRE ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

Want to unwind on Sundays after brunch with drinks and music and drag, not pay a fortune and still be home by Grown Folks Time? Cum to PLAYTHINGZ, an new Sunday daytime dance party (3-7pm) at Playhouse Bar in the West Village, with pop up shows from some of New York drag’s hottest new stars, care of Thotyssey NYC & Phil Chanel! Get all the deets here.

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Friday (5.26.2023)

FRIDAY (5.26.2023) Your daily guide to New York and New Jersey nightlife programming.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

LOWER MANHATTAN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT / TRIBECA

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

FIRE ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

Want to unwind on Sundays after brunch with drinks and music and drag, not pay a fortune and still be home by Grown Folks Time? Cum to PLAYTHINGZ, an new Sunday daytime dance party (3-7pm) at Playhouse Bar in the West Village, with pop up shows from some of New York drag’s hottest new stars, care of Thotyssey NYC & Phil Chanel! Get all the deets here.

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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On Point With: DJ Mascari

This sexy Brazilian beatmaker is making it big in NYC and beyond… put your hands up for DJ Mascari!

Thotyssey: Hello DJ Mascari, thanks for chatting today! I see you recently returned from Ft Lauderdale… how did that go?

DJ Mascari: Yes, I returned last Saturday; it was amazing. I had a great time, especially DJing there.

Ft Lauderdale is a nightlife destination, but Florida is going through crazy times! Did you pick up on any of that, or was the vibe all good?

Everything was great. The beach in Fort Lauderdale is beautiful. The weather was great. A little bit hot, but it’s summertime. I went to celebrate my BFF’s birthday and DJing at Eagle.

How long have you been a DJ now?

I learned to play when I was 17 years old, but I started playing as professional when I was around 22 years old… so more then 10 years ago.

Where’s your original hometown, and was music always a big part of your life?

I’m from Brazil. And yes, I grew up with music around. I loved music since I was a kid. I learned to love music because of my parents.

So many great DJs are from Brazil! Where were your first DJ gigs, and what brought you to New York?

I started in a good place–in São Paulo, and I shared [party billing] with big names there. Then I moved to Argentina, and finally USA. New York is considered the capital of the world; I came to NYC looking for new opportunities, and to keep growing with my professional career. I am DJing in great places in NYC.

What’s your favorite kind of music to play in your gigs?

I am glad I’m playing the music that I love: house and tech house music.

You d got some gigs this weekend, starting with Janelle No 5’s “Fantasy” this Friday at 3 Dollar Bill!

Yes. I started to work with Janelle in 2022, and I really love work with her. She’s an amazing person, and incredible professional. And I’m so excited for Friday. It will be wild! Great music and hot people.

And then Saturday you got a gig in Rhode island, right?

Yes. I’m traveling to Rhode Island on Saturday. It’s an open air festival. Super fun! I worked with that team since 2020–they booked me for an EDM Festival in Orlando three weeks ago. It was so much fun.

What else is coming up for you?

Yes. A lot of things happening. I’m getting a lot of opportunities in NYC. I’m happy djing in great places and sharing the both with important names. June is busy. I will celebrate my birthday at Soho Grand Hotel on June 17th. I’m so excited for that. I will play in Fire Island for Pride. And I’m going to Burning Man this year again!

Anything else?

I just want to say thank you to all the people who give me opportunities, and to everyone who supports me in my journey!

Yaz! Okay last question: Kylie’s new song “Padam Padam,” bop or meh?

I love Kylie Minogue. She’s great, I follow her and I love her music. So, bop!

Thanks, Mascari!

Check Thotyssey’s calendar for DJ Mascari’s upcoming appearances, and follow him on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Soundcloud.

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Thursday (5.25.2023)

THURSDAY (5.25.2023) Your daily guide to New York queer nightlife events.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN EAST / FLATIRON

  • LIPS: “Divas Night” dinner shows feat. Jesse Volt & more (5pm)
  • TOWNHOUSE: Pianist Fred Barton (6pm)
  • UNCLE CHARLIE’S: Pianist Jordan Wolfe (7pm)

CHELSEA

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

WEST VILLAGE / SOHO

EAST VILLAGE / LES

LOWER MANHATTAN / TRIBECA / CHINATOWN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

LONG ISLAND

  • LOCALE: “Patchogue Pride Mixer 2023” hosted by LaBelle (6pm)

FIRE ISLAND

WESTCHESTER / PUTNAM

NEW JERSEY

Want to unwind on Sundays after brunch with drinks and music and drag, not pay a fortune and still be home by Grown Folks Time? Cum to PLAYTHINGZ, an new Sunday daytime dance party (3-7pm) at Playhouse Bar in the West Village, with pop up shows from some of New York drag’s hottest new stars, care of Thotyssey NYC & Phil Chanel! Get all the deets here.

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Wednesday (5.24.2023)

WEDNESDAY (5.24.2023) Your daily guide to New York nightlife.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST / GRAMERCY / FLATIRON

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

CHELSEA

WEST VILLAGE / SOHO

EAST VILLAGE / LES

TRIBECA / CHINATOWN / LOWER MANHATTAN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

FIRE ISLAND

WESTCHESTER

NEW JERSEY

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Tuesday (5.23.2023)

TUESDAY (5.23.2023) Your daily guide to NYC nightlife programming.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN

LEVEL UP Game Night @ Atlas

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA

MEATPACKING

WEST VILLAGE / SOHO

EAST VILLAGE

LOWER MANHATTAN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

LONG ISLAND

FIRE ISLAND

WESTCHESTER

NEW JERSEY

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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On Point With: Elle Rose

Now captivating audiences with glamor, style and humor, this young queen’s paying it forward after drag saved her life. Don’t forget to stop and see Elle Rose before she gets too famous! [Cover photo: Johnny Pozzi]

Thotyssey: Hello Elle, thanks for chatting with us today! So how is your May so far?

Elle Rose: Hi babes! My May has been good and busy, just how I like it. Besides the wild up and down weather, May has been so gorge to me!

Yes, wild stuff! So how long have you been doing drag now?

My two year anniversary is next month in June!

Congrats! Where are you from originally, and were performance and art always in your life?

I’m originally from St Louis, Missouri and have been living in the city now for six years! Performance was not a part of my life prior to drag, actually; I was always an artist and creative, though. I started my career off at 15 years old as a wardrobe stylist and runway producer. Eventually I moved into beauty, doing hair and makeup for big companies, freelance, editorial and runway! Creativity has always been a part of who I was / am. I couldn’t have survived without the arts and creativity.

[Photo: @stregathequeen]

I’m guessing that background gave you an important foundation in your drag today… or is drag hair and styling completely different from what you were trained in?

Having a fashion and beauty background totally gave me a foundation in starting drag. I was able to understand the concepts of makeup, and being able to transform a face. Yes, I had a massive “booger phase!” And I knew how to sew some, but not really how to style an outfit and push those fashion limits.

Having a hair background was nice, but styling drag wigs and doing human hair are very different. A lot of drag wigs are synthetic or a synthetic blend, and the ways to style it are very different. But knowing hair, it was easier to learn how to style wigs and problem solve to create great hair. Also, having been in the fashion and beauty industry not only gave me a creative artistic foundation, but gave me a leg up in knowing how to network and work a room and strive for excellence.

[Photo: Lola Ceilings]

What made you wanna get into drag?

Honestly, I had always been interested in the art of drag since I was like 19, going to the gay bars in St. Louis. But what really got me into it was the passing away of my mom. She passed away in May 2019, and after that happened I found myself in a really dark deep hole that I wasn’t sure where I was or what I was doing. I felt like I needed an outlet to re-find myself and my happiness.

Fast forward to the peak of the Covid lockdown. My roommates / besties and I watched a lot of old Drag Race seasons and I started to just play around with makeup since I had a lot of down time. And once I started getting the mug together I just ran for it, and wanted to do it full force because it made me feel so happy and loved, and as if my world was no longer crashing down. Drag literally saved my life.

Beautiful! What about a favorite onstage moment?

Hmm… there are many, many good ones. But I’d have to say one of them would be one of the first times I performed (at Hardware Bar) with my sister Lola Ceilings. My two absolute best friends / chosen family were there and just seeing the love and support made me tear up, and that’s when I knew this is what I wanted to do with my life.


How might you describe Elle’s drag today?

I’d say my drag looks-wise is very Erika Jayne meets Ariana Grande, in the sense of loving high fashion, girly fashion, and sex appeal. As for numbers, I love a number where I can shake some ass and serve you some fierce dancing, and I love being able to throw a good amount of camp and comedy in my numbers and performances.

You’ve been co-hosting a Drag Race All-Stars viewing party these past two seasons with Novaczar at Secret Pour in Brooklyn on Fridays.

Yes I have! its such a fun show and space to work in! First off, working with Novaczar is so amazing and so fun. She’s such a sister, and so easy and dope to bounce ideas off of and to banter with. Our show is always mixed with shenanigans, shade, tea, laughter, and drinks! We will always serve a fierce number, and give you a good time!

If you haven’t been to Secret Pour, you must. It’s a really cute local Brooklyn dive bar with a secret door that opens to a secret room with really good drinks! There’s a pool table, and plenty of space to hang out! The owners Jaime and Roberto are such an amazing duo, and I love working with them!

What are your thoughts so far on the first episodes of All-Stars? Will this be a good or bad season, and whose team are you on?

So far I feel like the people sent home were the correct ones. It’s always hard to watch legends go home on All-Stars, but both Monica and Naysha were just a little… off compared to the others, lol. I feel like this season is going to be really good, actually. This cast is sickening, and so full of talent! I can’t wait to see what happens. I’m totally team Heidi and Kandy! Jimbo as a third choice, lol.

When the Drag Race episode ends, the party is just beginning at Secret Pour, right?

Yeah, I also have a solo show on Friday nights starting at 10pm called “Friday Night Fever,” with DJ Jay Essex. It’s a cute dance party with pop-up drag numbers! I’m just so blessed to be a drag artist, and I love sharing my art with everyone. Stay tuned, more to come!

Glorous! Okay, to wrap up: what’s your favorite, and then least favorite, thing about drag today?

Ohhh.. hmm. My favorite thing about drag is two things: 1) The sisterhood / community of the drag scene, and 2) The way drag has changed my life, and how I now view myself and the world around me. My least favorite thing about drag is how bad my feet be hurting after every gig… but like, the fantasy isn’t real unless we got these stilettos!

Thanks, Elle!

[Photo: @foodmasku]

Check Thotyssey’s calendar for Elle Rose’s upcoming appearances, and follow her on Instagram.

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Monday (5.22.2023)

MONDAY (5.22.2023) Your daily guide to New York City nightlife programming.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN / TIMES SQUARE

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

CHELSEA

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

  • NOWHERE: “Macho Mondays” feat. gogo boys & DJ Ryko (8pm)
  • CLUB CUMMING: Lance Horne (10pm)

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

FIRE ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

New episode of Thotyssey NYC & Red Eye Radio’s exclusive nightlife gossip / news podcast “Thotlight” hosted by Jim Silvestri & Freddie Cosmo out now, available on all major streaming platforms!

STREAM ON ALL PLATFORMS HERE

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Podcast: Marti Cummings on Drugs, Drag, Divorce… and Dinner?

Thotyssey’s Jim Silvestri and co-host Freddie Cosmo present a weekly podcast taped live at Red NY discussing NYC queer nightlife news and gossip, featuring a new interview with a dynamic insider each week.

STREAM ON ALL PLATFORMS HERE

Freddie’s been DJ’ing (ho-ing) all over town, while Jim saw Once Upon a One More Time and a Drag Race viewing party in Brooklyn.

In the Thot Seat: drag star, TV personality and political activist Marti Cummings! They talk about recent experiences with GLAAD and the Drag Isn’t Dangerous telethon; the hazardous political climate and “anti-drag” movement; Tucker Carlson’s personal attacks on Marti and subsequent downfall; starting a political party in NYC that ultimately did the impossible; growing up in a rural town and their unique drag origins; going viral with a kid’s song and conservative backlash from that; the drag reality show they created & starred in; how the pain of losing an election led to an amazing TV opportunity;  new gigs and a new podcast; dealing with anxiety; and their most personal show yet coming up this week at Joe’s Pub.

In the news: a TX lesbian bar is denied insurance after they hosted drag shows; Drag Race All-Stars8 premiered; Idina Menzel drops into a BK queer bar; results of the GLAAD Awards and Eurovision; DJ Magazine Awards nominees;  social media is highlighting a local ballroom star’s performances on Beyoncé’s Renaissance tour.

Sunday (5.21.2023)

SUNDAY (5.21.2023) Your daily guide to New York and New Jersey nightlife programming.

UPTOWN / BRONX

CENTRAL PARK

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA

MEATPACKING

[PLAYTHINGZ @ Playhouse Sundays 3-7pm]

WEST VILLAGE

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

EAST VILLAGE / LES

TRIBECA / CHINATOWN / LOWER MANHATTAN

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

LONG ISLAND

FIRE ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Saturday (5.20.2023)

SATURDAY (5.20.2023) Your daily guide to New York queer nightlife.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN / TIMES SQUARE

MIDTOWN EAST / FLATIRON

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

MEATPACKING

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE / SOHO

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

FIRE ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

Want to unwind on Sundays after brunch with drinks and music and drag, not pay a fortune and still be home by Grown Folks Time? Cum to PLAYTHINGZ, an new Sunday daytime dance party (3-7pm) at Playhouse Bar in the West Village, with pop up shows from some of New York drag’s hottest new stars, care of Thotyssey NYC & Phil Chanel! Get all the deets here.

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

Save the Date | Pride Events | Full Calendar

Friday (5.19.2023)

FRIDAY (5.19.2023) Your daily guide to New York and New Jersey nightlife programming.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

LOWER MANHATTAN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT / TRIBECA

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

LONG ISLAND

FIRE ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

Want to unwind on Sundays after brunch with drinks and music and drag, not pay a fortune and still be home by Grown Folks Time? Cum to PLAYTHINGZ, an new Sunday daytime dance party (3-7pm) at Playhouse Bar in the West Village, with pop up shows from some of New York drag’s hottest new stars, care of Thotyssey NYC & Phil Chanel! Get all the deets here.

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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On Point With: Vampy Von Thickums Galore

A stunning performance pedigree and a recent “BitchFest” win make this dark demon of dance one to watch in Brooklyn and beyond: Vampy Von Thickums Galore! [Cover photo: Evangeline]

Thotyssey: Hey Vampy, how are you enjoying May?

Vampy Von Thickums Galore: I’m feeling amazing; this month is such a whirlwind of amazing things. Today is so beautiful as well. How are you?

Great! Excited about new opportunities this season. You’ve been pretty “all over the place” lately, which is wonderful!

OMG yes! I feel so blessed and truly honored by everything that has been coming in, and the experiences I’m gaining… the lessons I’m learning. It’s everything I wished and strived for, with so much more to come.

And you’re pretty new to the biz, right?

I have been doing drag for eight months now; May 16th made eight months. I started on September, 16th, 2022.

So you’re basically a post-pandemic girl.

Yes I am! It was actually before the pandemic I tried to do drag (only lasting three days). I went by the name Thickums Galore; I was trying things out. At the time, I did not feel so sure of myself.

It wasn’t until after I broke up with my partner (back in July 2022) when I came to the realization of my capabilities, and the passion and fire that I have for drag. Come September, I went full throttle: I bought a wig, outfit, and heels, and I went on to enter “Open Call” at the Ritz hosted by Holly Dae and Stasi. I lip synced my favorite song “It’s Not Right, But It’s Okay” (Thunderpuss Remix) by Whitney Houston and won.

[Photo: Anthony Leo]

So where are you from originally, and did you always have a performance or artistic background?

I was born and raised in Brooklyn, NY, specifically in Williamsburg (well before gentrification). And yes, I do have a performance background. I studied dance basically all my life: ballroom, ballet, modern, postmodern, contemporary, African, jazz (Fosse the Haus Down), tap. I feel lucky I was able to study at Ailey School / Paul Taylor; I went to LIU Brooklyn to Study for my BFA in Dance, with a minor in Music Studies and Pre-Physical Therapy. I was also lucky enough to study theater and movement therapy in high school and college.

How might you describe what your drag in general is like today, as far as looks and numbers go?

Very classic drag mixed with new age ideas and aesthetics. My looks range from dancer to glamour, from creative drag things to horror. After competing in La Zavaleta’s “BitchFest” for the month of January (and winning), I can confidently say I’m very versatile (in this instance). My numbers are driven by my passion and care for music. I listen to music every day. I’m always on Spotify, going through music of every genre and seeing what I like, what I feel, how can I present this artwork of music and create a physical / visual number that my audience can live in with me. What I love most with my numbers is the ability to create and say “thank you” to my audience for sharing this moment with me.

[Photo: Anthony Leo]

Have you had a favorite onstage moment so far?

Yes, actually. Picture it: it’s the finale of BitchFest. It’s the top two, me and my dear friend MAUVE. We finish lip syncing to “Dream On” by Aerosmith. The winner is announced; I’m the winner of January. What made it so special was not the win, but that my fellow competitors Bertha Vanayshun, MAUVE, Xana Whoria, and Hot Messiah came to hug me and congratulate me as I lost myself on stage with so much emotion… and who is there but Sasha Velour! She’s someone who inspired my drag in the most Brooklyn creative fashion. I remember seeing her on Season 9 of Drag Race and being just in awe, and wanting to do that in my own way. Yet here we are, working it!

Lots of great stuff coming up for you, too! I see that Friday night you’ll be at Purgatory.

Yes! Martyr, another fabulous drag artist, is having their show called “Revelations,” a beautiful night of goth in all forms. I’ll be joining along with a stunning cast of open set ghouls to perform. I’m really happy that Martyr open their show up for an open set cast. It gives others that chance to showcase themselves and their art.

And later this weekend, you’ll be a brunch queen!

I’m excited! I’ll be performing in Freeda Kulo’s brunch on May 21st at Kween in Astoria.

And you’ll have a Sunday evening show as well.

That same day I’ll be at Good Judy for the first time with Brooklyn icon, legend, and someone who I love like a sister: Mocha, for her “Queen of the Month” club residency there.

And then, I see you’re premiering a recurring show of your very own next Sunday!

I have my own monthly debuting at Cantina in Bushwick called ” Haus Of Thickness.” It’s a show where (of course) everyone is welcome, a place where you can watch some fabulous drag performers, eat, and drink. For this opening I have Kekoa (my beautiful trans drag sis), Toxic Waste ( A steller AFAB performer), Manhatten Whiskey Brown (who is the resident of Cantina and a fab drag performer) and Piper (who I love near and dear, our permanent DJ and performer for Haus Of Thickness).

Haus Of Thickness will have its Thick Opening on May 28th from 8pm to 11pm, and will happen every fourth Sunday of the month. Again, everyone is welcome no matter their gender, size, color or age. At my show, hate has no place but out the door. And who knows… if you come in drag I might let you do a number, ’cause why not?


All excellent! Okay, here’s the last question: what’s your favorite thing about drag, and your least favorite?

Oooh, fabulous question! My favorite thing about drag that I love is the creativity–the willingness and passion it takes to become what you want in drag. It’s such a huge challenge that I love. I also love the family you make because of drag, and the way you find yourself through drag. Drag most certainly brings people together in so many ways. It’s incredible. In every way, drag saves lives. I can testify to that anytime.

The only thing I don’t appreciate with drag is the negative judgements that sometimes comes with it, due to people’s personal perception. My advice: do you, continue to grow, and carry on with love. I also have two sayings I would love to end with, and hope can enlighten someone: 1) “Not your circus, Not your monkey,” and 2) say this 20 times a day: “Every way, in every day, my life gets better and better.” Because it does.

Thank you, Vampy!

[Photo: Anthony Leo]

Check Thotyssey’s calendar for Vampy Von Thickums Galore’s upcoming appearances, and follow her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

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Thursday (5.18.2023)

THURSDAY (5.18.2023) Your daily guide to New York queer nightlife events.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN EAST / FLATIRON

  • LIPS: “Divas Night” dinner shows feat. Jesse Volt & more (5pm)
  • TOWNHOUSE: Pianist Fred Barton (6pm)
  • UNCLE CHARLIE’S: Pianist Jordan Wolfe (7pm)

CHELSEA

MEATPACKING

LE BAIN / THE STANDARD: NYSocialbee’s “The List is Closed” feat. The Illustrious Blacks & DJ Joopiter (10pm)

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

WEST VILLAGE / SOHO

EAST VILLAGE / LES

LOWER MANHATTAN / TRIBECA / CHINATOWN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

FIRE ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

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BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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X-Rayed Sex: “I’m HIV+… But I Forget”

By LeNair Xavier

Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette.

I learned I was HIV+ in the fall of 2007. And I honestly forget what year I became undetectable. Due to how I was given my confirmation that I tell in my Medium article “Was My HIV Confirmed In A Color of Care,” one thing I do definitely know is that whoever I had sex with since before becoming undetectable, I was totally into using condoms and honest with sex partners about my HIV status. However, once I became undetectable, I made my condom use be up to my sex partner. And the conversations about HIV status, I totally stopped initiating them like I did before.

What brought this change about?

Because with the advent of PrEP and the advances in HIV medications, I noticed that the conversations about status before an encounter had greatly lessened from my prospective playmates. And I mirrored that. Noticing that many of those who do initiate the conversation today are those who use the term “clean” as an attempt to feel sexually superior as I addressed in my article “Still Saying ‘Clean’ In 2017”. However overall, many don’t ask the question anymore. Of the many sex parties and backrooms I have been in attendance of, it is rare to see a condom used or requested.

SIDE NOTE: Of the few times condoms are used, it would be nice if many of those patrons would be more respectful of the venue and staff by putting the condom in the trash afterwards. Not being self-entitled jerks by throwing the condom on the floor to be cleaned up by venue’s staff afterwards. But I digress.

My becoming forgetful of my status to a point goes back to my history before I became HIV+.

As a single, very sexual man, I had (and still do have) many partners. When I was HIV-, I was always using condoms. I became HIV+ from 1 of the 2 rare encounters between my last negative reading and becoming positive in which I did not use a condom. One in which I topped where I followed my protocol of immediately washing off after a bareback encounter; while the other in which I bottomed. And I’m quite sure I became positive from the latter. Because of this, when I first learned that I had become HIV+, that status weighed on my mind. It weighed on my mind enough that if I was not asked, I at times brought up the topic myself. Or if a conversation about HIV and STIs in general just happened to come up, I would disclose my status.

Once I started treatment and learned that becoming undetectable meant that one could no longer transmit HIV through sex, I was motivated to follow the protocol to get myself undetectable. And until I got word that I had become undetectable, I never realized how much my HIV+ status was weighing on my mind.

My HIV+ status was a constant concern with hookups and dating. Becoming undetectable and being drug-free otherwise, gave me a freedom to not let my status weigh so much in my head. More and more, it got to where I am now. It is a thought in my mornings when my Alexa reminds me to take my Biktarvy, Once I take that pill, it is now no longer a thought. It has become so little a thought now that when I am in a conversation in which the topic of HIV has come up somehow, I completely forget to inform who I’m conversing with that I know of what I speak because I am HIV+ undetectable.

I will admit that to some extent, this might be to compensate for something I did before becoming positive.

Back in 2002, my 1st year of being out and sexually active, Manhunt was the primary cyber means for gays to hook up. Through it, I chatted with a guy whose HIV status on his profile said, “Ask me”.

In one of the chats in which I knew it was leading to a meet-up, I said, “Your HIV status says, ‘Ask me’. So here I am asking.”

The words “I’m positive” popped up on the screen.

I really enjoyed our chats. So I did want to meet him and have sex with him. I just knew I was going to take the precautions of using a condom. But looking back on that always bothers me.

For with hindsight being 20/20, if I was going to use a condom as I had with guys even without discussing HIV status back then, why did I make it such a big deal to ask?

It was because I was following the stigmatizing protocol. A protocol that I see now was meant to make him more self-conscious of his situation & actions. When in actuality, all parties should be equally self-conscious of those things. Be the person HIV-, HIV+, recently STI-tested, and not recently STI-tested.

I feel a great deal of guilt over that. But if any good comes from it, it is that it makes me hope that guy is at a point where despite my unnecessary question back then, that he is now at ease with his status for it to not weigh so much on him. As for why I tell of me allowing my status to slip my mind, it is to inspire others. Others who are HIV+, and those who are HIV- and want to further understand our day-to-day. Inspiring them to live with an understanding that one’s HIV status can get to a point where it being any kind of burden can become mere minutes, maybe even seconds of one’s day.

LeNair Xavier can be found frequently at the Cock, and at various other exhibitionist-friendly venues. He can be followed on Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter and Instagram. He guest blogs occasionally for Kiroo.com.

X-Rayed Sex Archives

Wednesday (5.17.2023)

WEDNESDAY (5.17.2023) Your daily guide to New York nightlife.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST / GRAMERCY / FLATIRON

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

CHELSEA

WEST VILLAGE / SOHO

EAST VILLAGE / LES

TRIBECA / CHINATOWN / LOWER MANHATTAN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

LONG ISLAND

FIRE ISLAND

WESTCHESTER

NEW JERSEY

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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On Point With: Fonda Koxx

This Texan drag star has made NYC her town to slay… and now podcast stardom is underway as well. Fonda Koxx rocks our world!

Thotyssey: Hello Fonda! How is the month treating you so far?

Fonda Koxx: So far it’s been amazing; I’m really enjoying the weather change.

What is the perfect drag weather?

A brisk 60, with no rain!

That does sound perfect. By the way, did you happen to catch the premiere two episodes of All Stars? If so, what are your overall thoughts about the winners and “losers,” and the twist that home viewers can now basically vote for a fan favorite?

I always love the twists! I only saw the first episode. My thoughts are, I’m sad for Monica; I love her! I also love that they kept the lip sync assassins.

So, tell us a bit if you will about where you’re originally from, and if performing, fashion, music, etc. were always in your life.

I’m originally from Texas, and have always loved a performance. Music has always been a part of my life. I started drag before Instagram and Drag Race, so my idols have always been the local queens. I watched and learned and thought to myself for many years, “I want to do this.” And one day, I finally got the nerve… and I have yet to stop.

How might you describe the Texas drag scene, for those unfamiliar?

Texas drag is very camp meets showgirl. It’s all about, looks, dance, stunts, and comedy.

What made you want to come to New York and do drag here?

I’ve always dreamed of living in NYC. I figured after the pandemic, it was now or never. If you can make it in NY you can make it anywhere, as the song goes!

Do the New York girls turn it a lot differently than the Texas girls?

They are both so different! NY girls are entertainers and are much more theatrical, and you are more likely to get live singing in NYC. I love both so much.

How might you describe the Fonda live experience, as far as looks and numbers go, today? Do you sing?

I’m much more of a dancer and lip sync queen. I love camp, so you’ll probably see my drop a split with a silly look on my face. I love to serve a look, and then give you the unexpected comedy and acrobatics.

You co-host a Latinx drag revue called “Reinas” at HUSH in Hell’s Kitchen, with Pietra Parker and Natalie Carrera. What’s that like?

It’s honestly been my favorite show I’ve done. We are all so different, and so in sync. We each bring something different, and get to represent our cultures.

And I understand that you’ve recently started a podcast with two unlikely co-hosts, Marti Cummings and Richard JMV, and that you actually all have a few key things in common!

Yes, “Them 3 Judies” is the podcast and it’s been a fun adventure. We mostly wanted to express the idea that being sober and working on your mental health shouldn’t be stigmatized or keep you from loving and living your life. As you know, nightlife is centered around drinking and celebrating. Being sober is just a unique perspective.

I can imagine! What else is going on or coming up for you?

I am excited for the one year anniversary of “Reinas” happening July 21! We have an amazing event planned, and can’t wait to share it with everyone.

Very exciting! Okay lastly: what’s your favorite thing about drag… and what’s your least favorite?

My favorite thing about drag is the community it builds, the sisterhood! My least favorite thing is that for so many of us, we face ignorance and novelty. People forget we are real people.

Thanks for keeping it real for all of us, Fonda!

Check Thotyssey’s calendar for Fonda Koxx’s upcoming appearances, and follow her on Facebook, Instagram and YouTube.

On Point Archives

Tuesday (5.16.2023)

TUESDAY (5.16.2023) Your daily guide to NYC nightlife programming.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN

LEVEL UP Game Night @ Atlas

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA

MEATPACKING

WEST VILLAGE / SOHO

EAST VILLAGE

LOWER MANHATTAN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

WESTCHESTER

NEW JERSEY

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Monday (5.15.2023)

MONDAY (5.15.2023) Your daily guide to New York City nightlife programming.

UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN / MIDTOWN / TIMES SQUARE

[ADVERTISE ON THOTYSSEY!]

CHELSEA

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

  • NOWHERE: “Macho Mondays” feat. gogo boys & DJ Ryko (8pm)
  • CLUB CUMMING: Lance Horne (10pm)

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

NEW JERSEY

New episode of Thotyssey NYC & Red Eye Radio’s exclusive nightlife gossip / news podcast “Thotlight” hosted by Jim Silvestri & Freddie Cosmo out now, available on all major streaming platforms!

STREAM ON ALL PLATFORMS HERE

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DIVES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DRINK N’ DRAW | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | WATCH DRAG RACE

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