X-Rayed Sex: ” Gay Indoctrinations Ruining Your Sex Life #1: The White Lies”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. While watching the HBO series, The Vow, one word in describing what the psychosis of Keith RaniereContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: ” Gay Indoctrinations Ruining Your Sex Life #1: The White Lies””

X-Rayed Sex: “So Many Bottoms Among Us”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. One ongoing complaint (or joke, depending how you look at it) here in NYC is howContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “So Many Bottoms Among Us””

X-Rayed Sex: “For Your Consideration, My Go-To Lubes”

WHAT IS THE BEST LUBE? It is a question asked often, and regardless of one’s gender and sexual orientation, the answer varies. And due to the fact that it has so many varying answers, it is a question I hate. For we live in an age where few people express a complete thought. In theContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “For Your Consideration, My Go-To Lubes””

X-Rayed Sex: “Born 1971, And My Sex Appeal Is Far From Done”

It seems to the surprise of many that on March 31st, I will be turning 50 years old. I personally am quite proud of becoming this milestone age. However sadly, because of gay suicides and substance abuse within the gay community, the beauty and joy of getting older is something not talked about enough byContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Born 1971, And My Sex Appeal Is Far From Done””

X-Rayed Sex: “Head To A Gaming Head”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Have you noticed this latest porn scenario of a guy getting head while gaming? I have.Continue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Head To A Gaming Head””

X-Rayed Sex: “I Like Porn Viewers, But Can’t Stand Porn Fans”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. The title quote is something I have said for years. It probably sounds odd to manyContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “I Like Porn Viewers, But Can’t Stand Porn Fans””

X-Rayed Sex: “He Made Me Talk About Pulling Out”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. I have made no secret of how much of a sex geek I am. Trust me,Continue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “He Made Me Talk About Pulling Out””

X-Rayed Sex: “Why Pulling Out Hurts All Parties”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. All parties involved in a sexual encounter should possess a sexual ego. And that ego naturallyContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Why Pulling Out Hurts All Parties””

X-Rayed Sex: “Dear First Prospective Top Since Quarantine”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Even though some social spaces have started to re-open, I’m sure a number ofContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Dear First Prospective Top Since Quarantine””

X-Rayed Sex: “Virtual Sex Parties… What? Where? For How Long?”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Some cities are in the process of re-opening. That means naked parties, sex parties,Continue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Virtual Sex Parties… What? Where? For How Long?””

X-Rayed Sex: “I ♥ My Crop Tops, And I Can Top”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. I have long said that the gay male community can all too often be itsContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “I ♥ My Crop Tops, And I Can Top””

X-Rayed Sex: “Sacrificing Intimacy… For Fansite Content!?”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. In this new age of porn in which every other gay has either a JustForFans,Continue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Sacrificing Intimacy… For Fansite Content!?””

X Rayed Sex: “What’s Coming Post-Quarantine At Sex Positive Spaces”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. For a good number of us, sex, lust, and our sex drive don’t die justContinue reading “X Rayed Sex: “What’s Coming Post-Quarantine At Sex Positive Spaces””

X-Rayed Sex: “Is ‘Bisexual’ An Outdated Term?”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Just before New Year’s, I got a DM on Twitter from a loyal follower. ItContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Is ‘Bisexual’ An Outdated Term?””

X-Rayed Sex: “The 2 Different Blowjobs”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Recently, it has gotten to a frustrating point of how my ass seems to make a goodContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “The 2 Different Blowjobs””

X-Rayed Sex: “I Don’t Believe In Total Bottoms”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. GOTCHA! I’m sure the initial read of that title had some of you fuming. Especially if youContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “I Don’t Believe In Total Bottoms””

X-Rayed Sex: “The Perks of Hooking Up With A Sex Blogger”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette.   NOTE: While this article is written to cater to a gay male audience, implementing the properContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “The Perks of Hooking Up With A Sex Blogger””

X-Rayed Sex: “My Public Sex Is Not To Validate My Sexuality”

By LeNair Xavier   Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Yes, I have a past in which I’ve done studio-based porn. Yes, as Jim Silvestri has […]

X-Rayed Sex: “Celebrating Pride With Sex Is Not A Sin”

*NSFW NSFW NSFW* By LeNair Xavier   Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. LGBTQ Pride for many is highly politicized. Especially this year with it being theContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Celebrating Pride With Sex Is Not A Sin””

X-Rayed Sex: “When I Masturbate”

*NSFW NSFW NSFW* By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Growing up in a religious household, realizing there is nothing wrong with masturbation is aContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “When I Masturbate””