X-Rayed Sex: “Sex Is A Celebration”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. I have long said that sex is both a physical and spiritual connection. Well, the same duality canContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Sex Is A Celebration””

X-Rayed Sex: “How To Masturbate… what You’re NOT Seeing”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. A male customer came into the sex shop I presently work at and asked for a book aboutContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “How To Masturbate… what You’re NOT Seeing””

X-Rayed Sex: “Tops Spread STIs, Too”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. It has long been the case that when any kind of STI is spread that the blame fallsContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Tops Spread STIs, Too””

X-Rayed Sex: “My Virginity Loss Did Not Make My Sexuality”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. This year, I celebrated my 20th anniversary of both my coming out to myself and losing my virginity.Continue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “My Virginity Loss Did Not Make My Sexuality””

X-Rayed Sex: “Sex Space Behavior Post-Lockdown”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Presently, a lot of gay male behavior in sexually permissive spaces shows that they lost whatever social skillsContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Sex Space Behavior Post-Lockdown””

X-Rayed Sex: ” Do Trans Males Top Cis Males?”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. A recent backroom tryst at a bar made me have to pose the title question. I sawContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: ” Do Trans Males Top Cis Males?””

X-Rayed Sex: ” Gay Indoctrinations Ruining Your Sex Life #1: The White Lies”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. While watching the HBO series, The Vow, one word in describing what the psychosis of Keith RaniereContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: ” Gay Indoctrinations Ruining Your Sex Life #1: The White Lies””

X-Rayed Sex: “So Many Bottoms Among Us”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. One ongoing complaint (or joke, depending how you look at it) here in NYC is howContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “So Many Bottoms Among Us””

X-Rayed Sex: “For Your Consideration, My Go-To Lubes”

WHAT IS THE BEST LUBE? It is a question asked often, and regardless of one’s gender and sexual orientation, the answer varies. And due to the fact that it has so many varying answers, it is a question I hate. For we live in an age where few people express a complete thought. In theContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “For Your Consideration, My Go-To Lubes””

X-Rayed Sex: “Born 1971, And My Sex Appeal Is Far From Done”

It seems to the surprise of many that on March 31st, I will be turning 50 years old. I personally am quite proud of becoming this milestone age. However sadly, because of gay suicides and substance abuse within the gay community, the beauty and joy of getting older is something not talked about enough byContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Born 1971, And My Sex Appeal Is Far From Done””

X-Rayed Sex: “Head To A Gaming Head”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Have you noticed this latest porn scenario of a guy getting head while gaming? I have.Continue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Head To A Gaming Head””

X-Rayed Sex: “I Like Porn Viewers, But Can’t Stand Porn Fans”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. The title quote is something I have said for years. It probably sounds odd to manyContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “I Like Porn Viewers, But Can’t Stand Porn Fans””

X-Rayed Sex: “He Made Me Talk About Pulling Out”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. I have made no secret of how much of a sex geek I am. Trust me,Continue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “He Made Me Talk About Pulling Out””

X-Rayed Sex: “Why Pulling Out Hurts All Parties”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. All parties involved in a sexual encounter should possess a sexual ego. And that ego naturallyContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Why Pulling Out Hurts All Parties””

X-Rayed Sex: “Dear First Prospective Top Since Quarantine”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Even though some social spaces have started to re-open, I’m sure a number ofContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Dear First Prospective Top Since Quarantine””

X-Rayed Sex: “Virtual Sex Parties… What? Where? For How Long?”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Some cities are in the process of re-opening. That means naked parties, sex parties,Continue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Virtual Sex Parties… What? Where? For How Long?””

X-Rayed Sex: “I ♥ My Crop Tops, And I Can Top”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. I have long said that the gay male community can all too often be itsContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “I ♥ My Crop Tops, And I Can Top””

X-Rayed Sex: “Sacrificing Intimacy… For Fansite Content!?”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. In this new age of porn in which every other gay has either a JustForFans,Continue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Sacrificing Intimacy… For Fansite Content!?””

X Rayed Sex: “What’s Coming Post-Quarantine At Sex Positive Spaces”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. For a good number of us, sex, lust, and our sex drive don’t die justContinue reading “X Rayed Sex: “What’s Coming Post-Quarantine At Sex Positive Spaces””

X-Rayed Sex: “Is ‘Bisexual’ An Outdated Term?”

By LeNair Xavier WARNING: NSFW! Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Just before New Year’s, I got a DM on Twitter from a loyal follower. ItContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Is ‘Bisexual’ An Outdated Term?””