X-Rayed Sex: “Cum Dump: Fantasy vs. Reality”

By LeNair Xavier

Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette.


I have made no secret of my love for cum. That love has made many appearances on my LXTreme Tumblr in the form of pics, gifs, videos, and captions for the aforementioned 3. As well as in some of my erotic poetry. So me wanting to partake in a cum-dump as a top or bottom should not be a surprise.

However, before proceeding, one must take into account what the expectations created by erotica-incited fantasies of a cum-dump versus the what certain set-ups of a cum-dump in reality says about all parties partaking of it.

FANTASY

The fantasy of a cum dump is a long ongoing one. Like I said before, I myself am no stranger to the fantasy of being part of a cum dump. I expressed interest in it was a bottom with my poem “Blind Fuck Mind Fuck 5.”

For while I never stated if the sex in that fantasy was with condoms or not, the fact is that my fantasy in that poem has always been to fucked raw. With no matter how lousy the sex is, each hot guy was to end his turn by shooting his warm jizz in my ass, and each guy after able to use that deposited cum as lube if he desires to do so. My hope that each guy following would be okay with having the previous guy’s(s’) pre-cum and jizz all over his dick is based on a personal kink of mine that I have actually practiced in real-life
raw gangbangs.

You see, I have no problem with the thought (or reality) of getting pre-cum and jizz on my cock when the guy who fucked the cum-dump before me is hot. I want to put my cock where that hot guy’s dick has been. Because in my versatility, I want to bottom for him as well. But since we would both be tops for a cum-dump, getting his jizz all over my dick because I’m next to dip in the bottom’s hole is the next best thing.

Porn has inspired many a set-up for a cum-dump. Unfortunately, those set-ups for fantasies we see played out in porn are quite different from the reality of a cum dump.

 REALITY

For one, unless their tops are planned out like the scenario I presented in ”Blind Fuck Mind Fuck 5“, rarely is a cum-dump bottom going to get as many hot tops shooting loads in his ass like those in Czech Gay Fantasy videos.

Trust me, if it was a guarantee, I would have signed up to be a cum-dump bottom for the cum-dump party I heard about before this year’s Black Party weekend, Anonymous.

However, in reality, the generally propagated idea of a cum dump is for it to be just that —totally anonymous. The top is never seen by his bottom, and in some cases (like no longer in Czech Gay Fantasy videos), the bottom’s face is never seen by his top. So while I get off on videos I see from Czech Gay Fantasy, it’s because I can see the hot tops and their great asses pumping away at the bottoms wishing. The reality of such a set-up however is quite demeaning to the bottom, the top, but most importantly to sex itself.

Because you are not a complete human. All you are is either a stick to put in a hungry ass, or a hole with a soft exterior to be entered by a dick.

A core motivation for allowing this anonymity is because all involved want what everyone wants. — To feel beautiful, sexy, and desirable in a world full of people ready to unjustly dismiss you as such. Dismissing you for physical traits beyond your control, or circumstances in you that their maliciousness wants to exploit.

However, the end result is that you have treated yourself as if you’re worth no more than a vibrating or thrusting dildo or a Cyberskin ass you can buy at any sex shop. What makes one hesitant to partake of this anonymity is remembering that you are a human being. Therefore, unlike a sex toy, you have the mental and emotional capacity to respect the nature of sex and want more. Yet, you chose to turn a blind eye to the spiritual connection of sex and give yourself to any and everybody in the room by either being truly blinded. Giving away the sex-enhancing power of consent…to unseen strangers.

Proving once again, how porn might inspire some fantasies. However, an emotionally and mentally healthy mind will leave many of fantasies as just that – a fantasy.

I’m sure this all sounds like a judgement, but it is definitely more so about me knowing how tempting a cum-dump is, but seeing the fine print of what it entails. For as much of a horndog I am, no one understands craving for a real live cock in your ass after a long absence of it more than I do.

But out of respect for my own body, and that of my playmate(s), I want them aware that I am aware of their beauty and worth, along with my own.

With that I am well aware that one’s playmates might not respect themselves. It’s probably why many of us are single. Well, just like the song lyrics say “If there’s to be peace on earth, then let it begin with me”, the same goes for respect during sex. Even if that sex is a quick tryst. In such a case, respect yourself and your partner during a tryst, maybe your partner will be inspired to start respecting himself.

With that said, I do not proclaim that I have not, or will not ever again succumb to such horniness. After all, with the amount of cocks I took, I did border on that route in Night of 1,000 Cock Colors. So I know from what I speak.

This leads to me to the need to address health. For taking care of one’s health is the deciding factor of how reckless someone is being when deciding to be or deposit into a cum-dump. So the healthy things to do in taking part in a cum-dump regardless of your role is to:

  • be aware of the risk you are taking. Unless you all just came from a rapid test with zero stops to where the sex is taking place, you have no idea of what the HIV/STI status is of that cum-dump, or the other cum depositors. Therefore;
  • take ½ the responsibility if you should catch something. After all, it takes 2 to tango, and PrEP only guards against HIV, not any other STI.  And if you took part in a cum-dump, you have tangoed with many.

Exposing this reality is not to deter you from ever experiencing a cum-dump, as a bottom or as a top. For as I stated, there are set-ups and mindsets that are more respectful of you and as many others you choose to have involved. But the set-ups inspired by porn strip us of that self-respect if we try assimilating them in real-life.

So know if I can make that proper set-up happen, I myself will one day have the pleasure of being a cum-dump bottom. Proudly reporting the results.


LeNair Xavier can be found frequently at the Cock, and at various other exhibitionist-friendly venues. He has a blog called L’s X-Ray Vision on Tumblr, and can be followed on FacebookTwitter and Instagram

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