Category Archives: X-Rayed Sex

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. [Cover photo: Nadzeya Haroshka / Getty Images] About 3.5 years ago, I wrote Sex Space Behavior Post-Lockdown. It examined theContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: Body? Out Of The  House… Brain?… STILL On COVID Lockdown “

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. [Cover photo: Nadzeya Haroshka / Getty Images] After a recent HIV/STI check-up, I got my results the nextContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “I’m HIV+… But I Am Not Abnormal””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. The title was not a misprint or misspelling. In the great words of Nene Leakes, “I said whatContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: Males Need To Talk About Kegels “

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. [Cover image: Henry Scott Tuke “The Critics” 1927 Courtesy of Leamington Spa Art Gallery & Museum (Warwick District Council) [CoverContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Understanding When Males Call Their 🍑 A 🐱””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. [Cover image: Henry Scott Tuke “The Critics” 1927 Courtesy of Leamington Spa Art Gallery & Museum (Warwick District Council) [CoverContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: Male Privilege… Privilege Or Hindrance To Growth? “

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. [Cover image: Henry Scott Tuke “The Critics” 1927 Courtesy of Leamington Spa Art Gallery & Museum (Warwick District Council) [CoverContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: Don’t Let The Sex Negativity Towards Pride Undo You”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. [Cover image: Henry Scott Tuke “The Critics” 1927 Courtesy of Leamington Spa Art Gallery & Museum (Warwick District Council) VenturingContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: Better Sex Bloggers & Lovers Compartmentalize”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. [Cover image: Henry Scott Tuke “The Critics” 1927 Courtesy of Leamington Spa Art Gallery & Museum (Warwick District Council) ManyContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: Being A More Sexually Liberated You “

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. The hashtag #RawIsLaw has been around for quite some time. In its initial inception, it was frowned uponContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Is #RawIsLaw A Wrong Law?””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. A lot of propaganda within the gay community tries to tell us that all of the rules weContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Earn Your Words & Actions””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. I learned I was HIV+ in the fall of 2007. And I honestly forget what year I becameContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “I’m HIV+… But I Forget””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. One idea that has too long been propagated in the gay male community has been that one’s sexContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “My Sex Appeal At 30 Plus Is Not Dependent Upon Young Lust””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. I made this meme in response to a bad habit I have seen of many patrons in spotsContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: Shame In Bags & Clothing”

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Gentlemen, we are in a crisis. The title is just a hint of the problem, but it isContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Gay Indoctrinations Ruining Your Sex Life #2: Losing Our Imagination””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Since this year celebrates the 20th anniversary of my being out and sexually active, I am by noContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Hook-Up Pic Tutorial””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. I have long said that sex is both a physical and spiritual connection. Well, the same duality canContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Sex Is A Celebration””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. A male customer came into the sex shop I presently work at and asked for a book aboutContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “How To Masturbate… what You’re NOT Seeing””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. It has long been the case that when any kind of STI is spread that the blame fallsContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Tops Spread STIs, Too””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. This year, I celebrated my 20th anniversary of both my coming out to myself and losing my virginity.ContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “My Virginity Loss Did Not Make My Sexuality””

By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. Presently, a lot of gay male behavior in sexually permissive spaces shows that they lost whatever social skillsContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “Sex Space Behavior Post-Lockdown””