By LeNair Xavier Thotyssey presents a bi-monthly column by LeNair Xavier, a writer/poet who has worked in many levels of the sex industry, and has a lot to say about the social politics of sex, porn and sexual etiquette. In all my years of being out and sexually active (16), I have definitely ventured toContinueContinue reading “X-Rayed Sex: “So You Think You Can Host A Sex Party””
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Sunday (9.23.2018)
UPTOWN / BRONXSOMM TIME: Game night with Charmagne Aultra (5pm) BOXERS UES: Poker tournament with Butch Cordora (7pm) SUITE: Karaoke Sundays with Glam Gavin (10pm) CASTRO: Latin dance party (10pm)GIN FIZZ: SET IT OFF urban party (10pm)EL MOROCCO: BOYZ NIGHT (10pm)HELL’S KITCHENHUDSON TERRACE: ALEGRIA: SUNRISE (8am-7pm)RITZ: Bingo with Sherry Pie & Pissi Myles (4pm); DJ David Michael (10pm)BARRAGE: FIESTAContinueContinue reading “Sunday (9.23.2018)”
RePoint: Emi Grate
[Photo: Pheral Lamb] When last we spoke on here nearly two years ago, Myanmar-born queen Emi Grate had just won the first preliminary week of the penultimate season of the vital “So You Think You Can Drag?” competition. Immediately after that interview was published, Emi dropped out of the competition and her entire career trajectory wouldContinueContinue reading “RePoint: Emi Grate”
Bar Babe of the Week: Pancho at Metropolitan Bar
Metro & Macri’s Pancho is a stop-motion animator who will make your heart skip a beat! Bar that I work at: Metropolitan Bar and Macri Park How long I’ve worked there: on and off, five years What are my shifts: Monday, Thursday & Friday (Macri); Tuesday, Saturday & Sunday (Metro) What makes this bar great: These old divesContinueContinue reading “Bar Babe of the Week: Pancho at Metropolitan Bar”
Saturday (9.22.2018)
UPTOWN BOXERS UES: Carlos the Uber Driver & Tiffany Anne Coke (9pm) BOXERS WH: Zarria Van Wales & DJ Nesto (11pm)SUITE: Octavia Anyae (11:30pm)HELL’S KITCHENBOXERS HK: Poker with Butch Cordera (6:30pm); CAFE CON CREMA Latin dance party (10pm) LUCKY CHENGS @ STAGE 48: Adriana Le Glam (7pm) HARDWARE: Tina Burner (7pm); DJ 2Face with Ruby Roo & Lagoona Bloo (10pm)BEECHMAN: Monet X Change: CallContinueContinue reading “Saturday (9.22.2018)”
Wake Up, Bitch! (9.22-23.2018)
Your guide to the weekend’s queerest brunches and early events.SATURDAYBOXERS (HK): BrunchCAFETERIA (Chelsea):BrunchDEEP END (RIdgewood Qns) Brunch with Harajuku ELMO (Chelsea): BrunchGALLO NERO (HK): Brunch with Tammy Spanx INTERMEZZO (Chelsea): Brunch with Tina Burner LA PULPERIA EAST (UES): Brunch with Ritzy BitzSUNDAY BIZARRE (BK): Brunch with Ariel Italic, Lady Bearica Andrews & Emi GrateBOXERS (HK): BrunchCAFETERIA (Chelsea):ContinueContinue reading “Wake Up, Bitch! (9.22-23.2018)”
Friday (9.21.2018)
UPTOWNALIBI: Fetish Night (10pm)CASTRO: Dance party & gogos (10pm)BOXERS UES: PLAY FRIDAYS (10pm)BOXERS WH: Kizha Carr & DJ JROC (11pm)SUITE: Brenda Dharling & Pattaya Hart Divinity Banks (midnight)HELL’S KITCHENBEECHMAN: Levonia Jenkins: Gender Fluids (10pm); Monet X Change: Call Me By Monet (midnight)HARDWARE: MoMo Shade, Kandy Muse & Janelle No. 5 (7pm); DJ Mike Borowski with Bootsie LeFaris (11pm)RITZ: Maddelynn Hatter hosts OPEN CALLContinueContinue reading “Friday (9.21.2018)”
Thursday (9.20.2018)
UPTOWNBOXERS UES: Carlos the Uber Driver & Tiffany Anne Coke (9pm); TOMA! urban / Latin party (10pm)WEST END: Nicole Onoscopi (9pm); The Ultimate Drag Pageant (10pm)SUITE: Karaoke with Jackie Dupree (10pm)CASTRO: TURN UP THURSDAYS (10pm)GIN FIZZ: THIRSTY THURSDAY urban party (10pm)TOOLBOX: Vinny Vega (11pm)HELL’S KITCHENBEECHMAN: Monet X Change: Call Me By Monet (7pm) HARDWARE: Shuga CainContinueContinue reading “Thursday (9.20.2018)”
On Point With: Butchie Gamble
Dancer, gogo boy, circuit queen, bartender, budding novelist and host of Thotyssey’s new twice-a-month kiki Thot Mess at Rebar, young Butchie Gamble is a sexy and smart rising star in nightlife and beyond. And now it’s time for us to bust his interview cherry! Thotyssey: Butchie, hello! Thanks for chatting with us today! How wasContinueContinue reading “On Point With: Butchie Gamble”
Wednesday (9.19.2018)
UPTOWN / BRONXALIBI: Extended happy hour with DJ Poison Ivy (6pm)TOOLBOX: Karaoke with Jackie Dupree TA (9pm) CASTRO: GET TWISTED WEDNESDAYS (10pm) WEST END: Lagoona Bloo & Golden Delicious with Didi Cumswell (10pm)BOXERS WH: Honey Davenport & Brita Filter *DEBUT* (11pm)HELL’S KITCHENVSBU: Karaoke with Ally Ganza FINALE (9pm)ATLAS SOCIAL CLUB: Men of Adonis Lounge (10pm)POSH: DJ John Marto with Octavia Anyae &ContinueContinue reading “Wednesday (9.19.2018)”
Tuesday (9.18.2018)
UPTOWN / BRONXWHISPERS: Bingo with Misty Mountains (6pm) TOOLBOX: TRL with singer Carla Bordonada (8:30pm)BOXERS UES: Standup comedy hosted by Justin Zirilli (9pm)BOXERS WH: Karaoke with Sucia (9pm) ALIBI: Take It Back Tuesdays (9pm) EVO LOUNGE: Kelly KaBoom (10:30pm)HELL’S KITCHENBARRAGE: Glow Party hosted by Nicolay (5pm)HARDWARE: Brita Filter with Alisha Day (8pm); Pixie Aventura with Ragamuffin (11pm) RISE: Corey TuT album release concert (8pm); Emily McNamara hostsContinueContinue reading “Tuesday (9.18.2018)”
On Point With: Tess Tickles
One of the fierce tribe of Westchester drag queens keeping the county’s scene alive despite the odds, Tess Tickles is keeping it real and making things happen. Thotyssey: Tess, hello! Thanks for talking to us today! I caught you Friday performing at Maddelynn Hatter’s new drag competition Open Call at the Ritz! You were her guest, since youContinueContinue reading “On Point With: Tess Tickles”
Monday (9.17.2018)
UPTOWN TOOLBOX: Charity bingo (9pm)SUITE: Glam Gavin’s karaoke (10pm) ALIBI: Gogo Mondays (10pm)BOXERS WH: Latin night (10pm)HELL’S KITCHENPOSH: DJ Xavier Mazara (9pm) HARDWARE: Sutton Lee Seymour & Cacophony Daniels 4th Anniversary show with Rachel Potter (10pm)ATLAS SOCIAL CLUB: Musical Mondays (10pm)VSBU: “Reel Thirsty Mondays” movie viewing (10pm) RITZ: DJ John Marto with Nick Gaga (10pm) THERAPY: Marti Gould Cummings hosts STAGE FRIGHTContinueContinue reading “Monday (9.17.2018)”
On Point With: Mariano Rubin de Celis
Art direction maestro for photoshoots and film sets by day and glorious gogo boy by night, Argentinian Adonis Mariano Rubin de Celis keeps our imagination running wild 24/7! Thotyssey: Mariano, thanks for talking to us today! So, much of your summer has been spent dancing at the DWorld underwear party at the Ice Palace… howContinueContinue reading “On Point With: Mariano Rubin de Celis”
Sunday (9.16.2018)
UPTOWN / BRONXSOMM TIME: Game night with Charmagne Aultra (5pm) BOXERS UES: Poker tournament with Butch Cordora (7pm) SUITE: Karaoke Sundays with Glam Gavin (10pm) CASTRO: Latin dance party (10pm)GIN FIZZ: SET IT OFF urban party (10pm)EL MOROCCO: BOYZ NIGHT (10pm)HELL’S KITCHENRITZ: Bingo with Sherry Pie & Pissi Myles (4pm); DJ David Michael (10pm)BARRAGE: FIESTA LATINA (5pm)HARDWARE: Brita Filter [herContinueContinue reading “Sunday (9.16.2018)”
Bar Babe of the Week: Matías at The Monster
Bar that I work at: The Monster How long I’ve worked there: Since Christmas Day 2017 What are my shifts: I’m there at least 4 times a week, anywhere from happy hour to late night. But I will always be there Fridays happy hour downstairs 6pm-10pm. Usually work that in a jockstrap 😉 What makesContinueContinue reading “Bar Babe of the Week: Matías at The Monster”
Saturday (9.15.2018)
UPTOWN BOXERS UES: JanSport (9pm) BOXERS WH: Zarria Van Wales & DJ Nesto (11pm)SUITE: Octavia Anyae (11:30pm)HELL’S KITCHENBOXERS HK: Poker with Butch Cordera (6:30pm); CAFE CON CREMA Latin dance party (10pm) LUCKY CHENGS @ STAGE 48: Digna (7pm) HARDWARE: Eurovision party with VJ OhRicky (3pm); Tina Burner (7pm); DJ 2Face with Ruby Roo & Lagoona Bloo (10pm)GOSSIP: GGNY 7th Anniversary hosted by Megami (9pm)BEECHMAN:ContinueContinue reading “Saturday (9.15.2018)”
Wake Up, Bitch! (9.15-16.2018)
Your guide to the weekend’s queerest brunches and early events.SATURDAYBIZARRE (BK): Brunch with Tyler Ashley & Charlene BOXERS (HK): BrunchCAFETERIA (Chelsea):BrunchCHERRYS ON THE BAY (FI): BrunchDEEP END (RIdgewood Qns) Brunch with Scarlet EnvyELMO (Chelsea): BrunchHONEYWELL (UWS): Brunch with Rosé and Lagoona Bloo INTERMEZZO (Chelsea): Brunch with Tina Burner LA PULPERIA EAST (UES): Brunch with Ritzy Bitz & Katastrophe JestSOUTHContinueContinue reading “Wake Up, Bitch! (9.15-16.2018)”
Friday (9.14.2018)
UPTOWNBOXERS WH: *opening night* (4pm); Kizha Carr & DJ JROC (11pm)ALIBI: Fetish Night (10pm)CASTRO: Dance party & gogos (10pm)SUITE: Brenda Dharling & Pattaya Hart (midnight)HELL’S KITCHENBEECHMAN: You Don’t Own Me! starring Paige Turner, Sutton Lee Seymour & Jackie Cox (7pm); Raja: Masque (9:30pm)HARDWARE: MoMo Shade, Kandy Muse & Janelle No. 5 (7pm); DJ Mike Borowski with Bootsie LeFaris (11pm)RITZ: Maddelynn Hatter hosts OPEN CALL drag competition (9:30pm); ContinueContinue reading “Friday (9.14.2018)”
Thursday (9.13.2018)
UPTOWNBOXERS UES: Carlos the Uber Driver & Tiffany Anne Coke (9pm); TOMA! urban / Latin party (10pm)WEST END: Nicole Onoscopi (9pm)SUITE: Karaoke with Jackie Dupree (10pm)CASTRO: TURN UP THURSDAYS (10pm)GIN FIZZ: THIRSTY THURSDAY urban party (10pm)TOOLBOX: Vinny Vega (11pm)HELL’S KITCHEN HARDWARE: Shuga Cain with Viva Vidalia (7pm); Shequida with Pattaya Hart (11:30pm) INDUSTRY: “Space Force” TrinityContinueContinue reading “Thursday (9.13.2018)”
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