Friday (12.17.2021)

FRIDAY (12.17.2021) Your daily guide to New York and New Jersey nightlife programming.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

LONG ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

ONLINE CONTENT (see all)


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Thursday (12.16.2021)

THURSDAY (12.16.2021) Your daily guide to New York queer nightlife events.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST / FLATIRON

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

LOWER MANHATTAN / CHINATOWN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

NEW JERSEY

ONLINE CONTENT (see all)

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Wednesday (12.15.2021)

WEDNESDAY (12.15.2021) Your daily guide to New York nightlife.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

  • LIPS: “Holiday Spectacular” dinner show hosted by Blackie O (8pm)
  • EVOLVE: Adonis Lounge (11pm)

CHELSEA

MEATPACKING

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

LOWER MANHATTAN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

WESTCHESTER

NEW JERSEY

ONLINE CONTENT (see all)

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

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On Point With: Captain Wonder

The color and mystery of New York nightlife draw many talented photographers to capture the scene, but here’s one of that world’s only true videographers–with a footage archive over a hundred thousand fold. Dr. David Howe has a busy life–now even busier, thanks to very recent family additions–but as GLAM nominated IG star Captain Wonder, he is still out here recording Everything Drag in a way that Thotyssey can definitely respect!


Thotyssey: Hello, Doctor Captain Daddy! Thanks for finding a minute in your increasingly hectic life to chat with us!

Captain Wonder: I always have a minute for Thots! Thank you so much.

Your new twin babies are so damn cute… what can you tell us about how they came into your life, and what fatherhood has been like so far?

I have yearned to be a father for as long as I can remember, but worried it was an opportunity that was closed off to people like us. It caused a bit of anguish until I realized I didn’t have to accept society’s rules on this, and could find my own way.

So about five years ago, I explored the possibility of finding lesbians to co-parent with. I wanted my kid to have two mommies because mommies are everything! There’s a whole world of matching sites out there. I found the right couple, we both swiped right, so to speak, and we began the long process of getting to know each other and finally making attempts.

They don’t tell you how hard it actually is to get pregnant and we spent years of failure after failure… which was hard on us all. But we didn’t give up on our dream, and finally this year we were blessed with not one but two legendary children for the House of Wonder! Fatherhood has been pure bliss. They have three parents who love them so much and fought so hard to bring them into the world. And I enjoy every minute, every burp, hiccup and coo.

I bet balancing your day job, fatherhood role and a nightlife presence in 2021 must be… exciting, to say the least.

They live with their mommies, but for sure it’s a balancing act. Lots of naps and sugar! All of those things bring me so much joy that you just figure it out though! I’ve always been a busy bee like that.

So if I understand correctly–which, there’s only like a 45% chance of that thanks to all the cocaine and cum in my brain–you are a Doctor of Psychology, and yet you work in the corporate world, right?

You know, I don’t know if anyone has measured the impact of brain cum on memory function… but you are right! Talk about multi-tasking–I finished my PhD at the same time I was starting [my social media presence] Captain Wonder, and working full time, and hatching top secret baby plans.

I’m a behavioral researcher and cultural anthropologist looking at the impact of culture on thoughts, feelings, and behavior. Academically, I looked at US / India comparisons, as well as social class and race within the U.S. This anthropological lens informs my approach with Captain Wonder when it comes to documenting drag culture.

And yes! Now I do behavioral research for a design team for an automotive tech company to improve user experience with our sites. Ironic, since I don’t even have a driver license here in the Big Apple.

And you’re originally from Florida… so I guess that stereotype isn’t true for all of you, lol!

Yup! I grew up on a dirt road in sunny St Petersburg, Florida, the city that holds the Guinness Record for most consecutive days of sunshine. Naturally I hated so much damn sun, and escaped to New York City as soon as I could! Still got some of that Southern twang peeking out occasionally… and an unnatural love of biscuits and grits, though.

I feel like when it comes to your meticulous documentation of NYC nightlife via your videos, you and I approach covering the scene with a similar academic mindset.

Yes we do–Thotyssey is really crucial to my process because of the tight schedule, and I love it!

Tell us about how you discovered drag culture here, and what about it drew you to document it so meticulously with photos and videos.

Where to begin? I’ve been peripherally involved in NYC nightlife for a long time, starting with the old East Village scene, spending lots of time with Jonny McGovern and all of those colorful characters. Candis Cayne, Bianca Del Rio and others were favorites along the way.

More recently, I was enthralled by the Olympian level talent of queens like Kizha Carr and Monet X Change. I thought more people need to see what’s happening here; NYC drag is phenomenal. Sometimes these performers would be giving their all for empty rooms; they deserved a bigger audience.

At the same time, there was a lot of chatter about “Instagram queens” who had the look but couldn’t perform. I wanted to provide a balance by showcasing performance. I started out with photography, but found video better captured what drag is to me: movement, vibrancy, energy, life.

I was also inspired by the trailblazing work of people like Joe Jeffreys, Linda Simpson, Nelson Sullivan and others who painstakingly documented and archived what was happening in the queer scene for the benefit of future generations. I currently have 110,000 videos of drag.

Finally, I just wanted to find my place in the community. I’m not a performer or a big personality, but this was something that spoke to my quiet strengths that helped me contribute and belong. All that said, I took it to Instagram (and later TikTok) in fall 2016, and the response was overwhelming from all over the world. Over 25 million views as a conservative estimate, and so many messages from everywhere.

It’s such an important curation–especially nowadays, when random drunk people are only capturing a few seconds of performances here or there for IG stories. Your higher quality videos help document changes in how drag queens are performing over the years, and gives those filmed queens access to a learning tool.

There’s a lot of people with their phones out… but no one is really saving those, tagging people, or sharing them, or trying to take focused-not-drunken footage on a consistent basis. So I try to fill that gap! The last few years have been really cool, especially with new queens coming up to me and telling me they studied drag through my page. That is always so touching, and exactly what I wanted to achieve. I also get messages from closeted teens and people in oppressive countries who say I’m their gateway to another world.

Have you noticed a lot of change in how queens perform in your filming over the years?

For sure… on many levels there have been subtle changes. I’m capturing this post-Drag Race moment where queens are very aware of how they present themselves. Audience expectations are higher than ever, and New York audiences in particular are very hard to please. So queens have higher quality looks, and have integrated more acrobatics. Many queens have retired their more offensive numbers in recent years, for better or worse, as well.

I’m really excited by all the Covid babies–they learned how to create moments within their performances that translate to social media, and are stunningly diverse in a way that wasn’t always represented in Manhattan. Diverse on every level: ethnically, gender expression, performance style and more. It’s representative of a more inclusive moment in drag, and I’m loving it. More drag please!

Do you have, or have you had, any specific queens you enjoy filming the most? And do you have a favorite moment that you’ve captured?

Kizha Carr to me represents quintessential NYC drag–musical theatre trained, which means she can act the hell out of a mix and sing as well. She can host her own show for two hours by herself, which is a very New York thing, and heavily uses spoken word mixes–which is another NY thing, inspired by the legend Lypsinka. She is political and irreverent, direct and blunt–yet kind and welcoming. Those are all very NYC drag, and so I always come back to filming her to represent NYC.

Then as far as moments… so many. Thousands and thousands, literally! But what stands out always is the night of the 2016 election. Like most New Yorkers, I was really upset. So I went to Industry to see Monet X Change at, like, 2am. I have a video of her doing “It’s Not Right, But It’s Okay,” with election results still streaming in the background from earlier. It’s like, she was reassuring us that we would make it anyway, together. It was a needed distraction, and exactly what the best drag queens do: create a shared moment of collective joy, even when the world around us is falling apart.

Then also a million videos of Drag Race girls before, during and after their journey through the show–those are wild to look back on.

Are you friendly with other photogs on the scene, or are you all fighting for the best vantage?

Oh, you want drama! Lol! I’m friendly with the New York ones I know. Jeff Eason in particular I have a lot of respect for with his deep catalogue of work. We are respectful of one another’s space. That’s key–to properly document, you want to be discreet to begin with. Otherwise you become part of the performance, and a distraction for the audience and performer. Also I kind of occupy my own niche, so there’s not really any friction or competition there–even if I was inclined for a photographer knockdown smackdown.

I would love to see that though! Speaking of battles, you’ve judged a few drag competitions as well like “Polish the Queen” and “Lady Liberty.” What do you look for when you judge?

I want to feel something… because I’m dead inside! But also, because drag should evoke visceral emotions. Most of the time, that’s joy or delight or simply something that makes you gag. Sometimes that’s reflection or sorrow or anger (at the world, not the queen). I also want a story, a tight concept and a look that makes sense. Finally, grit and passion!

Congrats on your GLAM nomination for Best Photographer… well-deserved!

Thank you! And you as well! It’s my third consecutive nomination–we don’t count 2020, when there was not category–and every time, I’m really proud and humbled to be part of this amazing tradition. She doesn’t even remember this I don’t think, but when I was 20 I was homeless for about two months… and [GLAMs producer] Cherry Jubilee was really kind to me at the time when things were a bit dark for me. So I have a huge amount of respect for her and what she’s built.

Getting the first nomination in 2018 was such a kick! I don’t ever expect to win, but it’s really awesome to be part of the whole spectacle. Plus, the performances are always stellar!

Any closing words or reminders?

Just that I’m also on TikTok as well as Instagram! I’m kind of loving a true video-based platform to share from in TikTok, though Insta (and iCloud – you don’t want to see my storage bill) are home base.

Finally, and festively: what do you want from Santa this year?

All I want for Christmas… is you! No really, I spend my day life and night life learning about other people and telling their stories… very happily so! But it’s nice to share my story for once, so thank you for the chat.

Oh, and also diapers! Together they go through 30 a day right now!

Thank you, David!


Check Thotyssey’s calendar for Captain Wonder’s upcoming appearances, and follow him on Facebook, Instagram and Tik Tok.

On Point Archives

Tuesday (12.14.2021)

TUESDAY (12.14.2021) Your daily guide to NYC nightlife programming.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

LONG ISLAND

WESTCHESTER

  • GUAPO: Kitty Kaboodlez & Sasha Renee (7pm)

NEW JERSEY

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Monday (12.13.2021)

MONDAY (12.13.2021) Your daily guide to New York City nightlife programming.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

CHELSEA

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

  • CLUB CUMMING: Austin Ruffer (6pm);
    Lance Horne (8pm)
  • NOWHERE: “Macho Mondays” feat. gogo boys & DJ Ryko (8pm)

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

NEW JERSEY

  • PARADISE: “Drag Wars” hosted by Cee’mour Cox (11pm)

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Bar Babe of the Month: Christian at Pieces & Playhouse

This busy NYC bar boy with the laid back SoCal vibe is a favorite of many West Village bargoers: Christian!


Bar(s) that I work at: Pieces and Playhouse

How long I’ve worked there: 2 years

What are my shifts: Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights at Pieces. Wednesday nights at Playhouse

What makes this bar great: I love how Pieces has become a meeting spot for such a wide variety of people, from regulars who have been coming for 20 years, a 30th birthday party, or just a boys (or girls) night out.

Best drink I make: I make a mean Manhattan.

I love it when customers: Remember me and keep coming back to me.

I hate it when customers: Whistle or snap to try and get my attention. That probably won’t get you your drink any faster.

Craziest thing I’ve seen here: Haha, I see a lot. But it was really cool when Adele and Jennifer Lawrence came in and watched a drag show.

Other places I’ve worked: I did a summer out in Fire Island, I’ve done a few summers out in Montauk, and a few bars/restaurants in the city.

My hometown: Temecula, California (SoCal)

Stuff I do when I’m not bartending: Eating, buying plants, working out, or trying to be on a beach somewhere.

Single or Taken: I am Single.

Who/what turns me on: There’s a lot to that question, but I like a guy with a good head on his shoulders. Someone who takes care of himself and is easy going like me. And someone who can plan our week away – I am definitely not a planner, haha.

Favorite music: I like all kinds of music. Just depends on what my mood is. When I’m relaxing at home it’s usually Indie Pop or Indie R&B.

Favorite movie or TV show: Don’t know if I have a favorite. I watch a lot. Too much, haha.

Favorite drag queen: I work with so many talented queens. A lot are so wildly gifted and fun to watch. During the pandemic, though, I worked a lot with Izzy Uncut. If you haven’t seen her you need to. She’s a star.

My drag name would be: Lucy Culo

Favorite DJ: Love me some Nicky Boom Box. Can’t explain it, but he just knows what we want to hear.

Other stuff you need to know about me: I’m happiest when I’m at the beach. I love surfing or swimming. I lived in Honolulu for 7 years, where I also picked up a BFA in Interior Design.

Follow me on: Instagram

Tip me at: My Venmo is @Christian-Fornerod

Bar Babe Archives

Sunday (12.12.2021)

SUNDAY (12.12.2021) Your daily guide to New York and New Jersey nightlife programming.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

MEATPACKING

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

TRIBECA / LOWER MANHATTAN

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

LONG ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

Save the Date | Christmas / Holidays | New Years | Full Calendar

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event

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Saturday (12.11.2021)

SATURDAY (12.11.2021) Your daily guide to New York queer nightlife.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST / FLATIRON

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

NEW JERSEY

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Friday (12.10.2021)

FRIDAY (12.10.2021) Your daily guide to New York and New Jersey nightlife programming.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

NEW JERSEY

ONLINE CONTENT (see all)

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

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Thursday (12.9.2021)

THURSDAY (12.9.2021) Your daily guide to New York queer nightlife events.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST / FLATIRON

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

LOWER MANHATTAN / CHINATOWN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

LONG ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

ONLINE CONTENT (see all)

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

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On Point With: Civilization

One of a few recent transplants from Boston drag, the queen known as Civilization has already made her mark in NYC… and has her first GLAM nomination to boot! [Cover photo: Eric Magnussen]


Thotyssey: Hello Civilization, Happy holiday season! Are you watching stupid Christmas things on TV every day, or is that not your thing?

Civilization: ‘Ello! I’m actually not much of a holiday special watcher, but I have been finishing up the winter anime season.

What do you think of the live action Cowboy Bebop?

My coworker was just trying to convince me to check it out today! I usually have a very strict no live action policy because most of them flop, but they said it’s actually really good… so I might give it a watch.

Would you say that anime and genre stuff make up a big part of your drag identity and style?

I think in a more subtle way. I’ve been into it since I was in elementary school, and I’ve always kept up with it over the years. I feel like it’s definitely a part of my identity of me out of drag; it’s pretty much most of what I watch, aside from brain rot reality shows. For in-drag, I feel like I take away more overarching themes and storytelling that I put into my numbers rather than evoking it in my looks. Although I do enjoy a cosplay from time to time.

So you were originally known as a Massachusetts queen… is that where you’re from?

I am actually a military brat! Growing up, I moved around a ton. I started drag in upstate New York (Poughkeepsie area) when I was in college, and moved to Boston after I graduated for three years. But I’d definitely say that when I moved to MA was when I started to take drag more seriously.

What was it about drag that drew you in?

Honestly, I think I was drawn in at first by how people treated and reacted to me. I never really did anything in my life that garnered me praise until I started doing drag. I felt very much invisible to the gay community until I started doing drag… then I suddenly had people treating my like a goddess! I was hooked, lol.

And what’s the story behind your name?

My government name is Maiyan, like the civilization. Growing up, people would never pronounce my name right when I introduced myself to them, so I always introduced myself saying “Hi, my name is Maiyan, like the civilization.”

What’s been your overall experience with Boston drag?

Being a POC performer in Boston for me personally was very difficult. I was one of the only POC queens in the entire city, and at times felt it was hard to connect with the audience and my peers. I refuse to compromise on the type of music I perform and my performance style, but at the same time I wanted to make a name for myself… so I really had to be selective on what I was presenting at shows there. I think every queen wants to make money and entertain the audience, but I think it’s important to do that while staying true to yourself… which is not always easy for POC performers in white dominated spaces.

That being said, the community of queens there were all pretty accepting and open to letting me express myself how I wanted. There are a lot of older queens that I look up to from there who taught me a lot about drag in general. There is also a very talented group of younger queens that are on the rise there as well, many of whom I consider good friends.

One POC queen that made her name in Boston and has since become a NYC presence is Neon Calypso. And since Covid, we’ve had an influx of Boston girls come in like Robyn Edges, Poise’N Envy, Yune Neptune and yourself. How has the transition to NYC drag been so far for you?

Honestly, it’s been great. I truly feel like I can finally express myself fully how I want to, without having to worry about whether the audience will “get it.” I honestly couldn’t even have imagined the amount of support I get here, and how much people really seem to appreciate and value my type of drag. But mostly, it just feels good to be surrounded by so many POC performers that come from the same shared experiences as me.

You’re actually part of the recurring cast of Devo Monique’s Wednesday night show at Metropolitan in Brooklyn, “Dream Queen!” Tell us what your time with that show has been like.

It’s been really cool! I started working the door as a fill-in one week during the summer, and Devo kept me on as the resident door goddess. It’s the first weekly gig I’ve ever had, and it has taught me so much about constancy. I’ve known Devo for years before I even moved to New York, and it’s been so fulfilling to do this show with my sister after talking for so long of what it would be like if I moved here and we could actually do drag together. I also have loved getting to know the staff and the regulars that come in!

You often do the door there as well as numbers, and now you’ve been nominated for “Best Door Queen” in the GLAMs! Congratulations!

Honestly, I didn’t even expect it. I had no clue anyone was even nominating me… but I’m honored. Most of the things I’ve been performing are numbers that I’ve done for years with new content sprinkled in, and It’s been so cool to see how the crowd reacts.

And I see that on Friday you’ll be part of a showcase at Brooklyn’s Purgatory called “Neverland Collective!” What can you tell us about that?

Yes! It’s the first installment of the show, and I’m super excited to be on the cast. It’s a POC-ran show for fellow POC artists! It’s an open space for different POC artists to come together to perform drag, music, poetry or anything, really! It’s run by Sailor Malice, who is lovely. You can get tickets online, as well as at the door Friday. But yeah, come by and watch me feel my puss!

By the time this publishes, you’ll have done another show in Boston! Do you plan to continue to work regularly in both cities?

Haha, sure… if they book me! I go anywhere there is money! But I’d love to go back to Boston, and I’m so thankful for my sis Majenta with a J for asking me to be a part of the second live “Full Spin.”

Anything else to report?

I have been taking a bit of time off from drag in November, but I will be back in drag at “Dream Queen” starting next week! And I am making my burlesque debut at House of Yes next month on the 19th! Been working on a few new fits, so keep your eyes peeled!

Also, I am a formally trained cook and have been trying to do some catering on the side. If anyone is interested in signing up for a meal plan, please contact me! Trying to gauge interest right now.

Drag cooking gigs to the front! Last question: even though you’re not so festive this time of year, what do you want from Santa?

The dick down of my LIFE! #bottomrights

Tie a bow on it, Santa! Thanks, Civlization!


[Photo: RossKavPhoto]

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Wednesday (12.8.2021)

WEDNESDAY (12.8.2021) Your daily guide to New York nightlife.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

  • LIPS: “Holiday Spectacular” dinner show hosted by Blackie O (8pm)
  • EVOLVE: Adonis Lounge (11pm)

CHELSEA

MEATPACKING

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

LOWER MANHATTAN / FINANCIAL DISTRICT

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

WESTCHESTER

NEW JERSEY

ONLINE CONTENT (see all)

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

Save the Date | Christmas / Holidays | New Years | Full Calendar

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Re: The tHOTlist 2021!

It’s been a challenging few months, but the tHOtlist 2021 is on her way! We got off to a late start, but end of December is a realistic publication date. And she’s going to be an extra large one this year, because there is too much to talk about in this landmark Year of Nightlife.

This will also probably be the last one.

I’ve always meant the tHOTlist to be a method of celebrating all the accomplishments in NYC nightlife of the year, and a necessary action to increase the traffic and interest to the site (and if I were a martyr *cough* I would remind you here that I make no direct profit from this site and it’s meant to benefit thousands of people). I don’t think anyone loves this scene more than I do, and I say that without irony. I love the art and the crazy personalities and the history and the changing trends, all of it.

But honestly, making this list it is so, SO much work for one person to do and the negative feedback it gets–a very loud minority–can be a bit overwhelming, especially in these times. Even though this list was extra large, I’m still leaving off tons of people I would’ve liked to celebrate and the idea that these people would take omission from this list so hard and be so negatively impacted is a burden that gets increasingly hard to bear, to the point where I have to wonder if it’s worth continuing.

So I dunno, we’ll see! I have some seeds of ideas of something that can replace this next year. And I may change my mind, because I’m gay and old and senile. But as of now, I think 2021 will be the tHOtlistFinale.

Thotyssey itself, however, isn’t going anywhere!

tHOTlists

Tuesday (12.7.2021)

TUESDAY (12.7.2021) Your daily guide to NYC nightlife programming.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

WESTCHESTER

  • GUAPO: Kitty Kaboodlez & Sasha Renee (7pm)

NEW JERSEY

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

Save the Date | Christmas / Holidays | New Years | Full Calendar

GET YOUR EXCLUSIVE THOTYSSEY GEAR HERE!

Monday (12.6.2021)

MONDAY (12.6.2021) Your daily guide to New York City nightlife programming.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

CHELSEA

MEATPACKING

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

NEW JERSEY

  • PARADISE: “Drag Wars” hosted by Cee’mour Cox (11pm)

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

Save the Date | Christmas / Holidays | New Years | Full Calendar

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Sunday (12.5.2021)

SUNDAY (12.5.2021) Your daily guide to New York and New Jersey nightlife programming.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

MEATPACKING

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

TRIBECA / LOWER MANHATTAN

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

STATEN ISLAND

NEW JERSEY

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

Save the Date | Christmas / Holidays | New Years | Full Calendar

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event

GET YOUR EXCLUSIVE THOTYSSEY GEAR HERE!

Saturday (12.4.2021)

SATURDAY (12.4.2021) Your daily guide to New York queer nightlife.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST / FLATIRON

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

NEW JERSEY

TO ALL READERS, PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Writer / Blog

To all nightlife family who have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee (DM her for one if don’t), PLEASE VOTE! (here)

  • Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey.com, Best Event Producer
  • “Night of 5000 Thots,” Best Nightlife Event

GET YOUR EXCLUSIVE THOTYSSEY GEAR HERE!

BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

Save the Date | Christmas / Holidays | New Years | Full Calendar

Friday (12.3.2021)

FRIDAY (12.3.2021) Your daily guide to New York and New Jersey nightlife programming.


UPTOWN / BRONX

HELL’S KITCHEN

MIDTOWN

MIDTOWN EAST

CHELSEA / HUDSON YARDS

WEST VILLAGE

EAST VILLAGE

BROOKLYN

QUEENS

NEW JERSEY

ONLINE CONTENT (see all)


BALLROOM & KIKI | BEARS | BINGO | BRUNCH | BURLESQUE | CABARET | CIRCUIT PARTIES | CRUISING | DANCE PARTIES | DRAG RACE STARS | DRAG SHOWS | DIVES | FETISH | GAMES | GEEKY | GOGO BOYS | KARAOKE | LATIN | LESBIAN | LIVE MUSIC | OFF-BROADWAY | OPEN MIC | PAGEANTS & COMPETITIONS | PIANO BARS | SAFE SPACES | SCENE QUEENS | SPORTS BARS | TRIVIA | URBAN | WATCH DRAG RACE

Save the Date | Christmas / Holidays | New Years | Full Calendar

GET YOUR EXCLUSIVE THOTYSSEY GEAR HERE!

Tiz the Season to VOTE! (for Thotyssey)

It’s GLAM Awards time again! But changes to the voting rules for the “Best Writer / Blogger” category has put me squarely in the role of the underdog this year, but this old hooker’s got fight in her! If you have love and support for what Thotyssey NYC does for the queer community, please consider giving Jim Silvestri of Thotyssey your vote! Literally everyone reading this can vote for this category, as it is now up to the public! There’s actually a number of fun categories that everyone can vote for now, so check it out! (Vote for Best Writer / Blogger, Scene Queen, Podcast, Video, etc. here)

And if you’re an Industry Baby (you work in nightlife and have a voting code from Cherry Jubilee), please also consider voting for Jim Silvestri as Best Event Producer, and my baby “Night of 5000 Thots” as Best Event! (Nightlife folks vote here). Thank you luvs!